transfag barebacking

transqueerssexjournals:

I’ve been holding back on publishing this piece for a while.  but what the hell, here goes.  its about my experiences with barebacking i.e. unsafe sex

TQ

transfag barebacking

this piece is about barebacking - fucking without a condom

However I want to be very clear from the start that I am NOT advocating sex without a condom.

i do want to talk about it though

to read more

i really appreciate the honesty and thoughtful of this post - like all of these folks’ work, it’s very worth reading

also, i don’t have time to write on them now, but i do want to talk more in the future about:

  • how, in a lot of gay male safer-sex discussions and resources, the overwhelming focus on HIV can actually make it a lot harder / sometimes borderline impossible to find information about other sexual health concerns, in addition to making it difficult to talk openly about barebacking and the choices one can make around that
  • how there can be super intense differences in norms around the ways that safe / safer sex gets talked about and done in trans-specific queer/gay male spaces versus less explicitly trans-inclusive queer/gay male spaces - in the later, safe(r) sex generally just means using a condom for anal (and front-hole sex if dudes with such anatomy are considered at all), where as safe(r) sex in a whole lot of queer-trans spaces means a whole lot more (i.e. almost total fluid non-exchange, barriers for everything all the time, etc) - i’d really like to have space to talk about / through those differences …
from transqueerssexjournals
wildunicornherd:

jhameia:

Sulu Pour Homme.

Sulu Pour Homme, or Sulu For Men for those who are French-impaired, is the perfect cologne for the man who does everything, whether that be cataloguing exotic plants, collecting antique firearms, or piloting ancient helicopters and advanced starships. It’s more than just choosing to live your life with style; Sulu dives straight to the soul and allows you to release your own Intergalactic Man of Mystery, that jaunty, fearless swashbuckler of a man who, whether he’s wielding a rapier in a swordfight or commanding an Excelsior-class starship, is always ready for action. Oh my!

This is an actual cologne.
Oh my, indeed!

wildunicornherd:

jhameia:

Sulu Pour Homme.

Sulu Pour Homme, or Sulu For Men for those who are French-impaired, is the perfect cologne for the man who does everything, whether that be cataloguing exotic plants, collecting antique firearms, or piloting ancient helicopters and advanced starships. It’s more than just choosing to live your life with style; Sulu dives straight to the soul and allows you to release your own Intergalactic Man of Mystery, that jaunty, fearless swashbuckler of a man who, whether he’s wielding a rapier in a swordfight or commanding an Excelsior-class starship, is always ready for action. Oh my!

This is an actual cologne.

Oh my, indeed!

from blackamazon
wolfsham:

Winter ready mismatched browns professional gay.

wolfsham:

Winter ready mismatched browns professional gay.

from wolfsham-deactivated20130102
transartorialism:

you are so adorable!

transartorialism:

you are so adorable!

from transarterrified

radicalqueerbrownboy:

realgay:

There is also the “1st Timer’s Guide to Playing with Trans Guys” (download PDF)

genderqueer:

xxboy:

Gay Sex with Transgender Men Part 1 (via sillyyetsuccinct)

An introduction to sex with gay female to male transsexuals for cisgender (non-trans) gay men. What is an F2M? How can they be gay? What is their anatomy like? What’s the sex like?

I love it when he breaks out the diagrams :D

hnn

found some of this really useful and smart and well done -

- but, i’m pretty frequently bothered that almost every forum and resource that talks about trans guy sex stuff normalizes the sexy trans guy body as on testosterone, post top-surgery, and non-bottom surgery

this particular one does a little better by noting that some trans guys don’t have top surgery, and by mentioning that some guys get metoidioplasty of the clitoral- / neophallus-release type

but it’s still really troublesome that this, along with basically everything else i’ve ever seen, ignores the trans male bodies that have had other types of genital surgery that might or might not give them a cock that’s likely to get read as cis

also, calling the bodies of non- / pre- / early-testosterone trans guys ‘female’ and ‘very female-looking’ is really really not ok

from radicalqueerbrownboy
something i can’t quite put to words

transartorialism:

i’m reading a bunch of articles for orientation and general article-writing purposes, and they run the gamut from “feminist pedagogy” to “queer pedagogy” to “feminist writing center theory” to “queer composition.”

most of them suck and i really hate that, because i want there to be great stuff out there that really works and really gets at how composition/writing center work/pedagogy can be less shitty.

but it’s mostly things like this (from “cluelessness and the queer classroom,” by donald hall):

…the problem is not that students cannot argue; it is that they argue with an often rigid and even sanctimonious basis in traditional notions and wholly uninterrogated belief systems [like thinking gay people are going to hell].

and i don’t know what to do with that.  i agree that homophobia is damaging and limited, and that it is logically difficult to support; when it comes up in student writing, it’s often accompanied by the unsuccessful rhetoric of students who haven’t learned the academic writing game yet.

but i really resent this idea that students who are homophobic are stupid, or bad thinkers, or just haven’t had enough queer theory yet to realize they’re wrong.  not because homophobia is right, obviously—but because i think this gets deployed in an equally shitty power-y way by (oftentimes white, cis male, and middle-class) professors against a lot of groups that are already marginalized.

also, coding homophobia as “sanctimonious,” “traditional,” and “wholly uninterrogated” doesn’t leave room for the conservative and incredibly intelligent students who i sometimes tutor who are NOT sanctimonious about their homophobia, who can rhetorically support homophobic arguments or choose not to support queer arguments, and who are frighteningly untraditional and very subtle in supporting oppression.

i can’t think of much else to say besides this: composition and rhetoric isn’t a value-free system where “progressives” are always right and people who are homophobic/oppressive are just stupid and unenlightened.

from transarterrified
:[ usually love the faggy kitsch and hotness of sissydude, but this is hella gross and racist
boo this; the sissydude tumblr has done and can do so much better

:[ usually love the faggy kitsch and hotness of sissydude, but this is hella gross and racist

boo this; the sissydude tumblr has done and can do so much better

from sissydudeomen2
had a great time hanging out with transartorialism and besttumblr while the latter was in town
glad we all got to see 3xosc and colourswatchcactustheatre last night for a while, and glad that they let me steal some of their gingerbready beer
mildly regretful that we didn’t get to do mini-pies or hipster gaybar fun

had a great time hanging out with transartorialism and besttumblr while the latter was in town

glad we all got to see 3xosc and colourswatchcactustheatre last night for a while, and glad that they let me steal some of their gingerbready beer

mildly regretful that we didn’t get to do mini-pies or hipster gaybar fun

from baccarati
like a new desire

spent a good bit of today browsing the archives of the chubbyboys, youngcubs, and related bear-centric imageblogs, happily ogling big hott guys on the internet

found that on some of these blogs, particularly on youngcubs, there is like at least a 5x greater number of boys & men of color compared to any general fuckyeah[trans & (gender)queer people]-type image community i know of on tumblr

i mean, i can go on almost any given archive page and see at least a couple of poc, with some pages being mostly people i read as non-white

and - obviously, but still - all of the beary blogs have a way higher number of fat and chubby folks

point is - idk, i feel like in a lot of spaces that name themselves queer around here [here meaning both tumblr and atlanta] there’s this displacement of accusations of racism and sexual ‘intolerance’ onto the ‘mainstream gay community’ - which is surely valid insofar as there really is hella racism and bodyhate in a lot of gay spaces, but which also can serve to let white queer-identified people defensively reassure themselves of their anti-racism and acceptingness without actually, you know, doing much that’s anti-racist or that actively pushes boundaries in what and who gets practically privileged as notable and desirable

surely in such self-consciously queer-identified spaces i pretty rarely encounter fat people portrayed and basically never see fat male people eroticized

so, yeah: for all the queer self-congratulation i see in certain spaces, i also  see in practice a whole lot more non-white and non-skinny folks in some spaces that are way more likely to name themselves as gay instead of or before being queer

(and people with other types of bodily non-normativity get mostly ignored in all these spaces, though it seems important here that it was the more-gay-than-queer-positioned international mr leather competition that chose a wheelchair-using trans man for its 2010 award)

emeyeme:

barometro:

fuckyeahkraftwerk:

daysrunaway:

pico si se ve muy kitsch o gay, quiero esto como poster

Está total

emeyeme:

barometro:

fuckyeahkraftwerk:

daysrunaway:

pico si se ve muy kitsch o gay, quiero esto como poster

Está total

from emeyeme
transartorialism:

mister-sister:

outingthemusicindustry:

 
Awesomeness!
[NY1.com] - An advertising campaign designed to “thoughtfully increase the visibility of black and Latino gay men” can be seen in 1,000 subway cars and 150 stations starting this month. […]

We’ve switched America’s shiny white middle-to-upper class suburban gay stereotype with real gay minorities. Let’s see if they notice.

saw these all over ny; <3333333333

mostly loved these, though i’m a little uncomfortable with the ‘commitment’ thing there
surely ‘commitment’ doesn’t automatically mean ‘monogamy’ or ‘long-termity’ - and surely those are legitimate relationship styles for the people who want them - but it makes me kind of itchy insofar as it could function to be kind of a nervous reassurance for conservatively-politiced people of a variety of colors and sexualities and geographical tendencies that urban black gays can have ‘good’/’normal’ relationships
and i mean given how many people responded to this photo of some young black men cuddling on atlanta’s subway system, with stupid accusations of them being AIDS-spreading homothugs on the downlow (how dl can you be if you’re snuggling on MARTA?), it’s not irrational to expect that people will flip out over the idea of young men of color loving/fucking/connecting with eachother
but, still, you know
homonormativity

transartorialism:

mister-sister:

outingthemusicindustry:

Awesomeness!

[NY1.com] - An advertising campaign designed to “thoughtfully increase the visibility of black and Latino gay men” can be seen in 1,000 subway cars and 150 stations starting this month. […]

We’ve switched America’s shiny white middle-to-upper class suburban gay stereotype with real gay minorities. Let’s see if they notice.

saw these all over ny; <3333333333

mostly loved these, though i’m a little uncomfortable with the ‘commitment’ thing there

surely ‘commitment’ doesn’t automatically mean ‘monogamy’ or ‘long-termity’ - and surely those are legitimate relationship styles for the people who want them - but it makes me kind of itchy insofar as it could function to be kind of a nervous reassurance for conservatively-politiced people of a variety of colors and sexualities and geographical tendencies that urban black gays can have ‘good’/’normal’ relationships

and i mean given how many people responded to this photo of some young black men cuddling on atlanta’s subway system, with stupid accusations of them being AIDS-spreading homothugs on the downlow (how dl can you be if you’re snuggling on MARTA?), it’s not irrational to expect that people will flip out over the idea of young men of color loving/fucking/connecting with eachother

but, still, you know

homonormativity

from transarterrified
This Weekend is Totally Gay

3xosc:

So I totes forgot ATL Pride is this weekend, erm, not sure if I’m gonna go, anywho, if I do I’d like to meet some of the Tumblr army there?

hey! i just called you and txted p.’s cell, but we’re going to the parade today if you want to come with. i missed y’all while we were up north!

from vivid-eris
3xosc:

My roommate and my partner and me at the local gay bar on a Tuesday night
aren’t they pretty?

have we rendered the brick store a gay bar by sheer force of gay?

3xosc:

My roommate and my partner and me at the local gay bar on a Tuesday night

aren’t they pretty?

have we rendered the brick store a gay bar by sheer force of gay?

from vivid-eris
never was anyway

transartorialism quotes an article from the atlanta journal constitution newspaper:

“Tuesday, a poster identifying himself as “Jimmy” wrote “All [gays] must die” on Joe.My.God., a blog dedicated to gay and lesbian issues — just as Republican Chambliss and other senators were debating a Democratic proposal to repeal the military’s “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy. The proposal failed. The posting was traced to an Internet Protocol address matching Chambliss’ office, but it’s unclear whether it was one of his offices in Georgia or in Washington. Democrats seized on the situation. “No American should be subjected to the threats of violence from the staff of a United States senator,” Democratic Party of Georgia Chair Jane Kidd said in a statement. She criticized Chambliss’ office for not moving more quickly on identifying and disciplining whoever wrote the slur. “The comment can be traced to an extremely limited number of individuals that had access to the Senate Internet from the Georgia delegation offices,” Kidd said.”

Chambliss’ office says it was source of homosexual slur  | ajc.com

  • i am amazed by people’s brazenness
  • i am also amazed at how few people know the way the internet works
  • this is also proof that nothing is anonymous
  • it never was anyway
  • oh and homophobia sucks but we all knew that
  • lolololololol
  • not surprised by any of this
from transarterrified